THE BEGINNING OF THE END, HOSPICE CARE

Well, the call finally came, “Ms. Reaves, we’d like to re-evaluate your Mother.  She has lost more of her core function and we think she might be a candidate for Hospice care.” Here’s the thing, dear reader,  I thought Mom was already a candidate for hospice but she wasn’t’ approved the first time she was

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BEST CARE OPTIONS

During the journey many of us will take with an older family member there will come the juncture of whether to have in-home care, a move to a smaller place or a move to an assisted living facility. On an emotional level, we all think it’s better for everyone if they stay in their home

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IN HOME CARE – BE WARY, BE INFORMED

It’s a good news/bad news scenario.  The good news, you have enough money to have in-home care.  The bad news, it’s implementation time — finding the right company or person.  This is a slippery slope — especially in South Florida. Most of us reading this article have never dealt with caregivers —for ourselves or other

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Boring But Useful: Medicare/Medicaid – They Sound Alike But Are Very Different

BORING BUT USEFUL: MEDICARE – MEDICAID — THEY SOUND ALIKE BUT ARE VERY DIFFERENT Many of us think if we’re eligible for Medicare then we’re also eligible for Medicaid — although very few of us understand the difference.  I am going to attempt to explain that difference without putting you to sleep. MEDICARE: Medicare is

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Monitoring the Monitors – Assisted Living Centers

That dreaded phone call — the one where you don’t know the person at the other end of the line and he or she says, “we’re calling about your Mother.” In this case, Mother, suffering from dementia, had pulled the fire alarm and the locks on the “locked facility” had released. She walked out onto

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The Airport Wheelchair – How to Navigate the System

THE AIRPORT WHEELCHAIR – HOW TO NAVIGATE THE SYSTEM The other day, while running in Crandon Park, I came across my friend, Lilian, whose elderly Mom is in pretty good health.  Every year she and her Mother go to Santa Fe, New Mexico for mother-daughter time.  This means, she, like me, needs to utilize the

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The Search Begins – First Steps for Choosing An Assisted Living Center

You walk into the lobby and take a deep breath. How did you get here? Why is this necessary? How did my very competent ‘elders’ all of a sudden need assistance living? Other questions pop into your head, will they be happy here? Will they be fed well? Will they like the people here? Whether

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The Emotional Toll

NOTHING prepares you for your parents aging. Our company can assist with the financial scams and pitfalls but you’re the one who has to watch Mom, Dad, Grandma or Grandad age and weaken. It’s heart wrenching! I write this column as a daughter who has a demented mother (87) and a weakened , non-driving father

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